More and more guys are apparently, 'suckers for love'. --Which is not such a bad thing. But it sucks when it's your friends. My friend count is dropping like flies. I'm not an idiotic macho that says BROS BEFORE HOES but damn! We're the one's whose going to be there for you if something goes wrong in your relationship. We'll be there for you....will she? How long you've known her? How long you've known us? Oh you remember us now? Oh she dumped you? OH NOW YOU KNOW US, HUH?
Damn...excuse my vulgarness (did I create a new word?) but I guess some guys don't know how to act when they get pussy?
I feel like my good friend FC and I are the only guys left in Miami that understands that there's plenty of fish in the sea. I'm not a pimp by a long shot but I know I could get a female if I wanted to...I don't see a shot clock in the sky that's warning me that I better stay with the first female that can stand to be in a room with me for more than 10 minutes. I'm not a dog that sleeps around with multiple women because there's plenty to go around. If I know the relationship is not working out...I end it. I'm not going to adjust my lifestyle in a form of ignoring my friends just to make our relationship 'work'.
I don't understand how someone could throw away friendship (with multiple people) over a female. And if a female stands by that...she's selfish. Don't get me wrong, I don't call my friends every 5 seconds in a day wondering what they're doing, no. I understand if a person is in a relationship but don't ignore your friends. If so, we'll do the same when you come back with your hand out asking for some dap (hand shake).
But hey...I guess maybe these guys don't have confidence in themselves? I wish I knew why...
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....um, okay.
That's weird, FC and I were just talking about this last night. I swear!
He made the same "niggas don't know how to act when they get "pussy" " comment, and I was offended, but I understood.
I don't mean to offend anyone. I don't sugarcoat things, sorry.
If you have a rebuttal or different opinion, please share
; )
I have a question, particularly because I just got out of class and I'm still inquisitive, but why is it that the opposite sex reacts differently towards a man interfering with their friends?
How come with men they go above and beyond for the "rewards" women give, and for men, women don't necessarily put them on the same pedestal?
Now, this doesn't go for every man, obviously, but why is the "Pussy on the Pedestal?" (Maybe I'm completely off topic, and maybe I'm going to have to borrow yours to elaborate on my own blog --I hope you don't mind ;) -- )
but I feel it's unfair for you to make it seem like we're all little Delilah's or Jezibel's trying to steal your friends from you.
But you did make it clear that you're questioning the men, and not particularly the selfish women in those circumstances, so I'll give you that much....
(Sorry, I was in the middle of my rebuttle before I saw your reply :)
P.S. I like that you're not spewing the whole idiotic catch phrase "BROS BEFORE HOES", because not every female is a "hoe", and some women can actually live up to the standards of being a girl/friend, but then you go ahead and say, "there's more fish in the sea".
FC made it clear to me last night that you both have the nonchalant mentality because in truth, there's more women/friends out there, and everything is replaceable, but you shouldn't live your Life expecting subsitutions... =/
Ok.
I'm strictly referring to the guys who get love struck and develop amnesia symptoms towards their friends.
But there are selfish women out there, please believe. I've come across plenty of them. You could be with them for 3 straight days and they'll get pissy at you for wanting to hang out with your friends for O N E day. Give me a break, please. Then they turn it against the guy and make him feel like a dirt bag for wanting to hang out with his friends. There's situations where some guys can't even talk on the phone for 2 seconds to let a person know how life is going--COME ON! I wouldn't put up with that but apparently my friends do.
The pussy for me is not on a pedestal. I don’t make pussy out to be some Greek goddess named Pussliya. It has come to my understanding that guys that are self-conscious do this.
You shouldn’t live your life expecting substitutions but you have to understand that the chance of someone finding Mr. /Ms. Right on their first and second try is highly doubtful. You shouldn’t limit yourself ---and uncharacteristically change yourself---for the first woman that pops into your life.
Pussliya, huh?
Okay Cruz, I wont take it there! ;)
Overall I'd be an ignorant feminist to say you haven't made great points, and since you're addressing the insecure or self-conscious men that allow themselves to be taken over,
I'll agree to disagree... on agreeing ;)
But you really are absolutely right, for a person (male or female)to devote and commit to the first thing coming their way, is reckless and disrespectful to themselves and those they affect with that aloof attitude.
It's really not that difficult to balance your relationship and friendships, NO one needs to be with a person 24/7, and there's no excuse to not have limitations.
Exactly, it's selfish for a person to want someone for themselves at all times.
It's sad that there's people out there like that and it's equally sad how there's men out there that let women manipulate them in such a way.
Ah well, all I can say is that I hope your life is 99% when you choose to ignore your friends over your woman.
You're right, suc-y or not. ;)
But, c'mon, men shouldn't care about those things. but I suppose it's the principle of it:
-Loyalty
-Respect
-etc.
♥ crazy,
sasha m!chelle™
99% better*
Women and men do the same thing. If you are interesting enough, you'll want to spend more time with a certain person, that you like and want to be with. It doesn't necessarily have to do with sex, friendship is friendship, despite where it comes from, or with what.
So in those certain cases...you condone ignoring your friends? I'm not talking about your acquaintances; I'm talking about real friends who genuinely care about you. People who ask you how are you doing and really mean it.
I could meet a spectacular woman that amazes me in everyway and I'd still maintain contact with my friends. I wouldn’t block everyone out, especially if she wants me to. Pffft.
Guys and girls alike that do that are really sad because like you said who's going to be there in the end? Ive had my share of friends that were 'suckers for love' that ended up running back to me for comfort once they broke up with the person that they devoted their everything to.
A quote I like to keep in mind is "if you make someone your everything, when they're gone, your left with nothing".
And I think that sums it up. =)
yep, that just about sums it up
; )
IF ANY NIGGAS WITHIN MY CIRCLE TRIED THAT BULLSHIT, THEY WOULDNT BE MY NIGGAS, U KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
IT AINT NECESSARILY 'BROS B4 HOES', N TO KEEP MY HOMEGURL OFF MY CASE ABOUT IT, FEMALES ARENT SUPPOSED TO COME SECOND, BUT DAMN.
A RELATIONSHIP IS ONE THING, FRIENDSHIP IS ANOTHER. EACH HAVE THIER PLACE. MY TIGHTEST HOMEGURL GOES WITH FATAL, N I GO WITH HER BEST FRIEND, THE LINES NEVER CROSS, THEY KNOW WERE THEY MEET N END. THERES A CERTAIN LEVEL OF RESPECT I HAVE FOR MY FRIENDS N THEYRE GIRLFRIENDS/BOYFRIENDS, N THE SAME GOES FOR THEM.
IF A NIGGA PUTS HIS FEMALE BEFORE HIS NIGGAS, THEN HE EITHER IS INSECURE ABOUT HIMSELF OR THE RELATIONSHIP. THERES NO WAY AROUND IT. U EITHER FEEL U HAVE TO HOLD ON THAT TIGHT TO THE FEMALE BECAUSE U CANT DO BETTER, OR U FEEL LIKE U HAVE TO CONSTANTLY FOCUS ON THE RELATIONSHIP.
OR U JUST AINT A REAL FRIEND, N THATS SAD.
FEMALES COME N GO.
-1-
N TO BE REAL, IT AINT EVEN ALWAYS ABOUT SEX. I DONT WANT 2 PUT THE FEMALES DOWN LIKE THAT, IN REALITY THERE ARE THINGS THAT A FEMALE PROVIDES THAT A NIGGA DOESNT, N IT AINT JUST PUSSY.
BUT, YEA, A PUSSY-WHOOPED NIGGA IS PATHETIC. IT AINT EVEN THAT SERIOUS. THERE ARE MORE FISH IN THE SEA, BUT WHEN A NIGGA MAKES HIS CATCH, IF HE CANT LET GO N START FISHIN FOR MORE, THATS HIS BAD.
Good looks on the feedback, you right a pussy whoop nigga is pathetic. Too bad there's too many out there though.
This is an interesting post.
Pussliya?!?!?!?...That literally made me lol!!! I think women don't respect themselves now and days but that’s a whole other topic to begin with!!!
I don’t necessarily believe it is love; I feel that it is unhealthy for two people to be together 24/7. It is one thing to decide to be together or to share your life with someone but it is another thing to smother each other. We should have different interest outside of the relationship we are currently in, and in doing so we make our relationship better by having stuff we can share with our partner that they may not necessarily be into. When you are with someone all the time you lose your independence!!! What happens when that person is no longer around due to life circumstances? (e.g. break up, death, they move away) what happens? How do you function? I am a firm believer that in order to have friends you have to BE a friend. If the person you are with does not understand that you have friends and wants you to themselves that is a big RED flag!!! I do not think anyone really wants to be with a selfish person, and that selfishness deals a great deal with insecurities in my opinion.
But hey what do I know...
"I don’t necessarily believe it is love; I feel that it is unhealthy for two people to be together 24/7. It is one thing to decide to be together or to share your life with someone but it is another thing to smother each other. We should have different interest outside of the relationship we are currently in, and in doing so we make our relationship better by having stuff we can share with our partner that they may not necessarily be into. When you are with someone all the time you lose your independence!" --Why can't more women think like this? Or maybe this is a common problem with younger women? (This, the clinginess, etc.)
"If the person you are with does not understand that you have friends and wants you to themselves that is a big RED flag!!!" ---One (a normal human being) would think that would be a red flag but then again I don't understand why I continue seeing it time and time again. Insecurities in the male species is the only thing I can come up with. It's time to grow some, guys. Come on...
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